Start the night right. Children who go to sleep alone at night are more likely to go back to sleep on their own when they wake at night and find themselves alone. If you've been helping your child fall asleep by staying with her, you've also been helping to perpetuate her night-waking habit.
Consider her comfort. Being physically uncomfortable makes it difficult to fall back to sleep. Try to keep the temperature in your toddler's room neither too hot nor too cold. Wiggly toddlers tend not to stay under the covers long, so try dressing him in heavy, footed pajamas during the chilly months. Switch to lighter nightwear and coverings in the spring and fall. During the summer, a diaper may be sufficient on the hottest nights unless your child's room is air-conditioned. Try to discover whether your child sleeps better in a dark room or one lit with a night-light, and then adjust the lighting accordingly. If noise disturbs your child, close the bedroom door. If she sleeps better when she hears you moving about, leave the door open.
Wait out whimpering. Many parents make the mistake of responding to the slightest whimper, and end up fully waking a child who was only half awake and might otherwise have settled down by herself. Toddlers are noisy sleepers, and it's important to recognize that most of the noises they make during the night don't require a response.
Check out the situation. If whimpering develops into crying, slip into your child's room to be sure she isn't sick or tangled up in the covers. Straighten out her bedding, if needed. Change her diaper if it's dirty or wet, preferable without taking her out of the crib and with only a dim night-light on. If she's standing up, lay her down and tuck her in again.
Offer quiet comfort. Keep the reassurance low-key. The idea is to help your child comfort herself, not to do the job for her. Without talking or picking her up, gently pat or stroke her back for a moment. Add a soothing, "Shhhhh....." if necessary. Wait until she's calm, but not until she's asleep, and then quietly tell her that you're going back to bed now and leave the room. If she begins crying again, wait five minutes before going back in, and then repeat the comforting process. If the crying resumes, continue this process, each time adding five-minute increments until you're waiting 20 minutes between visits to her room. At some point, she will go to sleep on her own. Over the next couple of nights, the number of crying periods should drop, and by the fourth or fifth night the crying will probably stop entirely. |